How can you gain more life experience

13 things I would have liked to have known earlier - life experience part I.

In 26 years of life you gain a lot of experience. In my opinion, the kind of experiences that this is supposed to be about can only be gained from the age of 15 or 16. Of course, one also collects life experiences beforehand, but these are less conscious experiences. This is more about the type “already done and fell on the face” and of course about life wisdom that can only be acquired through years of observation, because many things can only develop and be recognized over a long period of time. During my one-year stay in the US in 1999, I spoke very often about the fact that you don't really need any experience to master tasks successfully - how foolish of me. This youthful recklessness has meanwhile turned into great awe of experienced people. When I approach problems today, I often first look for an expert and try e.g. B. to fix the problem more precisely in a conversation - it often turns out that the problem was not in the suspected place at all. Also a realization that makes long searches for the solution superfluous.

How often do you wish that you had the experience you just had a little earlier? This often saves you a lot of time and trouble.

What would have happened if a few hours of French lessons had been cut and replaced with courses on “personal development” (does anyone know a better translation of “personal development”?).

In the following I list some of the wisdoms, experiences, concepts and perspectives that I would have liked to have learned about in school.

1. The 80/20 rule

No matter if work or private. With the 80/20, also known as the Pareto principle, you use your time much more efficiently. Pareto examined the distribution of national wealth in Italy and found that around 20% of families own around 80% of the wealth. Banks should therefore primarily take care of these 20% of the people and a large part of their order situation would be secured. (Source: wikipedia).

Explained in one sentence: 80% of the desired result can be achieved with 20% of the time / activities. You can often save yourself a lot of time. Often one looks for a better solution even though it does not exist or, much worse, actually not necessary because the goal can also be achieved in this way. Example: when writing the thesis, you research many sources for a long time and then, when you look more closely at the first sources, you notice that you don't need the source. Perfectionists have massive difficulties here and should study the Pareto principle more intensively.

It is very easy to motivate yourself to consistently apply this rule if you consider that this will give you massively more time and energy for the things in life that really fill you and make you happy.

2. Parkinson's Law

You are faster than you think. This rule states that the processing time for a task and the assumed complexity of the task are related to the length of the estimated time for the task. Illustrated by an example: If you give yourself a week to solve a problem, it very often happens that the task appears to be more difficult and comprehensive because you are only working very unfocused on the solution with the available time budget. Of course, quality very often plays an important role in solving a task and a high-quality solution usually requires a higher time budget.

The solution: Focusing a small amount of time on finding the solution. When I worked on a big task earlier, it often happened to me that I tried to understand the task better (background, context, etc.) and thus actually, similar to my studies, I was busy expanding my wealth of knowledge, but not specifically to have worked on solving the problem. Basically, of course, there is nothing against expanding your knowledge, but you should be able to clearly separate when you are working on the solution of a task and when you are receiving further training.

Another important note: Even if the task was not solved as perfectly as theoretically possible, the existing â € œquick & dirtyâ € solution can produce the desired effect (or as one would say in business administration â € œvalue contributionâ €) Â € œvalueâ €) to the same extent. See also 80-20 rule. It is also possible that the result is better because there is no time for a complex solution.

Parkinson's Law helps me to do my tasks faster, to focus better and free up valuable time for further tasks. You can also prevent a lot of unsolved tasks from being on the to-do list and thus causing stress.

3. Visualize

Visualization is understood to mean, among other things, the mental preparation of a task / activity, etc. You use your imagination and imagine in detail how the task will be carried out. In many situations it also helps to close your eyes so that you can fully immerse yourself in the idea. There are two areas of application:

a.) The technique is used by many professional athletes in order not to make mistakes in uncritical challenges such as penalty kicks or pole vaults (you don't have to react very quickly, you have a short preparation time). The athlete mentally plays through the movements of the penalty shot three to four times and then starts to shoot. He can correct errors in the process even though he has not yet taken the shot.

b.) quite a few contemporaries have their problems with procrastination. You think of a task, don't feel like it and decide without further ado to reschedule the task or simply postpone it. The feeling of reluctance can be brought under control quite easily. You imagine how you work through the task and feel good after doing the thing and, for example, enjoy your free time or a small reward. It is simply a matter of converting the negative emotional state that occurs automatically when you think about the task into a positive one and using this positive mood to start immediately with the completion of the task.

4.Bundling / merging

Routine tasks, which often fall into the category of “no brains”, should always be summarized and all of them worked through one after the other (paying bills, shopping, tidying up your desk, etc.). You complete the tasks faster because you need less start time (start time could be, for example, the login into online banking or the way to the supermarket). You concentrate on these tasks and then have your head free for the demanding or leisure-time challenges 🙂

5. Proactive instead of reactive

If everyone were just reactive, very little would happen in the world. I like to start new things. Why? You are faster per se because you initiated the action and of course you have a.) A better feeling when you can attribute the action and the success that may result from it to yourself and b.) You have the feeling of being able to control something and is not maneuvered into a possibly undesirable direction by others.

6. Failure and failure is good

As a young person you make a lot of mistakes and naturally try a lot. As you get older, you are taught at school, for example, that you shouldn't make so many mistakes. And that intuitively means that one tries less and treads one's path on familiar paths.

The fear of failure or making a mistake can become excessive and prevent individuals from developing and using their talents properly.

What happens if you fail or make mistakes? Are you laughed at or is your friendship terminated from ewta? That seldom happens. My experience is that it can happen that you are ridiculed, but you are often given courage and ambition, etc.

You can only be successful if you keep making mistakes, understand the mistakes and avoid them in the future. Making mistakes can be very hard, but they take you further personally and ultimately lead to some successes being celebrated.

7. Decrease nervousness

Getting to know new people is fun. But you often find it difficult and you may get nervous if you don't find the right topic to talk about right away. A good way to deal with this situation is to assume that you are meeting one of your best friends. I've tried this several times now and you approach the person in a much more relaxed and natural way.

... to be continued (6 are still missing :-))