Feel inferior to other people

6. Customization

 

"Anyone who is unfaithful to his own cause cannot expect

that others respect him. "

 

 

People with Einstein syndrome are constantly looking for respect, especially among those around us who are different from us. We want to be part of it, to be accepted, to be taken seriously and perceived. Maybe it's because we are a minority in society. As a result, we have a real desire for confirmation and appreciation from our fellow human beings.

 

But because we are not aware of why we are different, we will always feel inferior to other people, no matter how successful we are and how great our resulting self-esteem is. That is why we often depend on someone who is a role model for us, who is what we are constantly expected to be, who shows us the way and says what is right and what is wrong. It can be a good friend, a colleague, a group that we join, or even the partner we admire, almost adore.

 

Most of us are easily influenced, cannot say no, distance ourselves or express our opinions to others, which is not infrequently used by other people for their personal benefit. This is due to the fact that we literally lack the necessary self-confidence. We are not aware of why we are who we are, that there is absolutely nothing bad about it, that we too have special abilities, and there is absolutely no reason to feel inferior.

 

Our “I” naturally strives for freedom, that is, for self-realization. But since birth we have been forced by the circumstances, the environment to which we belong, be it the family, society or another group.

The more often and more extensively we try to be what our fellow human beings expect from us, the more frustrated we become in the course of our lives and the more we will change, because through the constant process of adjustment, many of us lose more over the years and more her sincere and especially lovable character.

 

… I didn't have many friends, I was always looking for connections and had the feeling that I didn't really belong to them. I wanted to please the others and didn't even get to know myself, let alone just like myself a little ...

(Ryffel-Rawak [112], p. 75)

 

Breaking out of it requires an expenditure of energy that not everyone is capable of. So it happens that at some point some of us admire ideologies and consider ways of life to be right that no longer correspond in any way to our own morals. The natural principles of these people can be completely masked or suppressed by these ideas if they are looking for the only conceivable correct way in social behavior, politics and worldview for themselves and the rest of humanity. In the worst case, these can even be radical views that are a complete departure from their liberal basic idea.

Many extremist movements are supported by Einstein Syndrome people. Many are active as radical autonomists or seek respect from socially marginalized groups, such as violent football groups.

 

We live in a society that for the most part was not designed by us and was created for us. It's like a black person growing up in a world full of white people and trying to turn white for the rest of his life. This permanent adjustment process can be accompanied by the submissive behavior of great disappointments and deep emotional or physical injuries. The product is a steadily growing feeling of frustration. A feeling that accompanies us extremely sensitive people throughout life and turns into angry, irascible, even violent personalities over time.

The sad thing is that a few start to devalue others in school in order to gain confirmation in their social environment. Especially those of their own kind like to be mocked and hurt. Because although they consciously do not even notice it, they recognize themselves in the behavior of other of us, but despise it too profusely because they have always been criticized and labeled for it. So it often happens that we act out the hurts and injuries that we had to experience on relatives.

 

In the worst case, it can even lead to violent attacks in family and friends. These broken people are already very far removed from themselves and can only be reached at a point where they themselves question their behavior and their attitude to life through their actions.

However, when we as symbolically “black” people experience that there are still many other “blacks” in the world, this immediately creates a feeling of relief and our own acceptance. Fortunately, the majority of us remain true to our own moral standards even without this knowledge:

 

Einstein on the Berliners:

... How raw and primitive they are. Vanity with no real sense of self. Civilization (beautifully brushed teeth, elegant tie, sleek mustache, impeccable suit) but no personal culture (rawness in speech, movement, voice, sensation). Now I would like to admit that the two things are not inevitable. But when I start taking care of myself physically, I am no longer myself. So for me it would be the beginning of a (Gottseibeimir) connection to Berlin. So to the devil with it. ‹‹ ...

(Strauch [84], p.104)

 

There are many of us who resist conforming and pursue those views that conform to our own principles. This can be peace movements, animal welfare groups, environmentalists, human rights advocates, or just harmonious groups of friends among like-minded people.

Others seek their confirmation and their own ideology in sporting, artistic, cultural, scientific, entrepreneurial, or inventive activities.

 

For many, it is a constant interaction between the search for respect among other people and the abandonment of one's own principles and a natural, peaceful morality.

 

Albert Einstein's Creed:

… ›› I always respect the individual and have a tireless aversion to violence and club painting. For all of these reasons I am a passionate pacifist and anti-militarist, I reject all nationalism, even if it only poses as patriotism ... I profess the ideal of democracy, although I am well aware of the disadvantages of a democratic form of government. ‹‹ ...(Strauch [57], p. 197)

 

… ›› As long as there is a possibility open to me, I will only stay in a country in which political freedom, tolerance and equality of all citizens prevail before the law. Political freedom includes the freedom to express political convictions orally and in writing; tolerance includes respect for any convictions of an individual. These conditions are currently not met in Germany. ‹‹… (Strauch [58], p. 202)

 

 

 

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